When to start dating again break up
Sticking to your guns of No Contact will initially anger and threaten the narcissist, so expect some new craziness to emerge.The narcissist is relentless when it comes to securing his sources, and he will use all kinds of manipulative behavior to draw you back into the relationship.The conquest of getting you back is like a drug to him; the narcissist is a junkie when it comes to obtaining his sources of supply.He needs his fix whether it comes from new narcisstic sources of supply or old sources.Perhaps the most confusing and difficult thing when being involved with a narcissist is the crazy- making cycles of breaking up followed by the “highs” of making up.It is an inevitable process that comes with the territory of a narcisstic relationship.However, this causes the narcissist to experience “withdrawal” from not having enough ‘narcissistic supply’.In his frantic desire to gain a “fix” of narcissistic supply, he will respond in one of two ways.
NPD has no conscience, hence his ability to move on quickly to seek a new victim with more supply.At first he will show acts of being loving, compassionate and supportive; he will promise to change and he has a natural ability to fake tears and emotion.He may acknowledge the error of his ways and promise it will never happen again.He will try manipulating you back into the relationship. Even after they accept the break-up, they will show up with gifts at your door. They will want to control what you say to others about why you broke up.They need to be in control and they need to still come out looking like a hero.